The 3 foundations of an ideal friendship

An ideal friendship is one that is marked by tolerance, acceptance, and understanding. It is not enough that friends just share their troubles as well as their joys among themselves. Good relationships between friends continue as long as they respect each other, practice sincerity and selflessness, and make sacrifices within permissible limits. Deception, hypocrisy, and flattery win no friends.

Making friends in the modern times

Given today’s socio-political atmosphere, socializing, particularly making friends, has become complicated due to many factors. But one should acknowledge the fact that an ever-changing society calls for an ever-changing (or evolving) mindset when dealing with people who are different from us. What do tolerance, acceptance, and understanding mean in friendship?

Everybody knows – or anyone can claim to know – the meaning of those words but they do not know how to put them into action, how to practice them in a society where a crossover of different cultures, beliefs, and personalities take place. Such a development gives one a great opportunity to reach out and learn from another – and give a new meaning to friendship.

Tolerance

Tolerance and celebration of individual differences is the fire that fuels lasting love. Tom Hannah

Tolerance is giving to every other human being every right that you claim for yourself. Robert Green Ingersoll

One aspect of tolerance is being nice and friendly to people of another race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation, or political affiliation. It’s not their fault that they’re different, and their differences do not make them less of a person. It just happens that they receive a different upbringing or formation in life, experience life the different way, and travel a different path – and that what makes them and everyone else unique.

Individual differences are not disadvantages but different lenses to look into life.

Acceptance

A friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself. Jim Morrison

A genuine friendship is not measured by time but by acceptance. A friend is someone that even though you reflect the silver, he sees the gold in you. Unknown

Would you accept a person as they are or would you want them to change for you? Or why should their differences bother you when your own differences do not even bother them. Would it make you feel any better if they change for you?

A true friend will accept you not as you appear to be but as you can truly be. A true friend holds you up to your better self in a way that you feel being drawn out gracefully from within. A true friend will accept and love you for who you are.

Understanding

Friendship is love with understanding. Proverb

Best friend never have the same nature, they just have best understanding of their differences. Anonymous

By understanding, we value the individual differences and the individual greatness of our friends. Live with the fact that no two people are alike. Acknowledge that we all have individual differences, which should not hinder us from making friends with people who differ from us. Look not what separates us from them or them from us, but think how we could impact them and how they could impact us positively. Learn what unites us despite our differences, and ask how we could work together towards a common goal.

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